Kids, Gifts and Christmas

This is a story that appeared in the Mormon times from our friend Elia Gourgouris. He is a "nationally known speaker, relationship expert and just recently published a book through Deseret book". Anyways, I really liked what he had to say on this topic.

"I was interviewed last week for an editorial article on the topic of children and gifts during this holiday season -- and it got me thinking. As parents how well do we prepare are kids for the onslaught of advertisements? Our children are bombarded from television ads, online ads and every other form of advertisement with the latest "must-have" toys, electronic gadgets and cool clothes.

I hear parents all the time say that they HAVE to get their kids the latest "stuff" because their kids NEED it! Furthermore, parents are experiencing a lot of anxiety because challenges with the economy mean budgets are typically more limited this year than in the recent past. For most people, born after the Great Depression, this has come as quite a shock! They don't want to let down their kids, who have grown used to getting everything they ask for.

This is a great opportunity for parents to teach their children the difference between wants and needs. When kids say, "I need to have the latest iPod, (even though I have two more, but they're old)," they misunderstand needs vs. wants. Needs are basic necessities of life like food, shelter, clothing, guidance and love. Wants are everything else that the advertisers have very cleverly made SO appealing.
Given the current budgetary restraints of most households, this is a great time to teach children the importance of prioritizing. If a child has 10 things the or she wants for Christmas, perhaps it would help the child (and their parents) to pick the top three! If there's only enough money to buy the top gift, then when birthdays or graduations come around, the parents can get them their second and third items on the list.

It will teach the kids patience and a real understanding, that in life you don't always get what you want, nor do you get it instantly. Delayed gratification is one of the signs of maturity. Or, even better, how about if the children work to do extra chores around the house or the neighborhood and earn the money for Nos. 2 and 3 themselves!

Another problem I've seen is that far too many parents equate lots of gift-giving to giving lots of love. I believe this is called a "parental shortcut."

Good parenting is spending quality time with your children, resolving issues, listening patiently and expressing love, support and tenderness. Honestly, when kids grow up they don't remember the toys. They remember the special times spent together as a family. They remember the traditions, the laughter, the games, the Christmas songs around the fireplace. They remember the activities, like building a snowman, going sledding and having snowball fights.

The truth is that gifts break or get lost, sometimes the very same day that they are opened! On the other hand, happy, joyful memories are NEVER lost! That's what makes our childhood so special -- and that's the best gift of all for us as parents to give to our children!"

A Light Unto All: A Christmas Gift

I am Thankful.....

Chris shared this with me on Thanksgiving and I loved it. It shed a new meaning for me on the mundane things in life.

I am thankful for the mess to clean up after a party because it means I have been surrounded by friends. 
I am thankful for the taxes I have to pay because it means I have a job and I am employed. 
I am thankful for the clothes that fit a little too snug because it means I have had enough to eat. 
I am thankful for the lawn that needs mowing, windows that need cleaning, gutters that need fixing because it means I have a home. 
I am thankful for all the complaining I do about the government because it means we have freedom of speech. 
I am thankful for the parking spot I find at the far end of the lot because it means I am capable of walking. 
I am thankful for my big heating bill because it means I am warm. 

I am thankful for the lady behind me in Church who sings off-key because it means I can hear. 
I am thankful for the piles of laundry and ironing because it means my loved ones are nearby. 
I am thankful for weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day because it means I have been productive. 
And finally, I am thankful for the alarm that goes off early in the morning because it means that I am still alive.-Father Brian Joyce

Bike Ride using GPS

I went on a lunchtime bike ride today. I used a new application on my phone called TrailGuru. It tracks the ride with GPS and you can upload it to the Web when you are done. I was very impressed with the quality of the data and how accurately it recorded everything. If you have Google Earth installed, it's worth using the link to view it in Google Earth.

Sleepy Head

Last night Caitlin went up to her room to do her homework.  I went to check on her about an hour later and this is what I found.  One little girl, fast asleep on her math homework.  I woke her up, moved her to her bed and tucked her in.  When I woke her this morning she had no recollection of this at all.  Not sure what the green hat is all about (maybe it is her thinking cap!).